acidshadow:

tattooed-messianic-tiffy:

provoice:

tattooed-messianic-tiffy:

provoice:

callmebackinfiveyears:

provoice:

Today my parents and I went to a craft fair, and while I was looking at (well, smelling) some candles, my mom struck up a conversation with the guy running…

20 years old it not naive to decide weather or not you want kids. I decided when I was a child and have never changed my mind since. I’m 26 years old now and I still don’t want to have kids. It’s something I’ve always been sure of.

And yet people always tell me ‘You’ll change your mind/you’re too young to make that sort of decision!/ it’s different when its you’re own/you’re a women aren’t you meant to be maternal?’  etc.etc. People talk as if my choice is a phase or an immaturity on my part (because, having doubts and flip flopping on the issue of kids totally makes you mother martial, right?) I’m the least maternal person in the world and some people think a baby will ‘fix’ that. Oh yeah. That will totally work out fine for all involved.

It’s frankly quite an odd thing. I’d bet if you or I were to announce I wanted to adopt a dog right now, people would question weather I’m ready for the responsibility, whilst if I said I wanted kids, little to no one would challenge my readiness. That is the naive part of it all.

♥ 118 — 10 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via acidshadow (source)

babyradical:

Maybe its just me bit I really hate seeing those posts of people complaining that someone told them they might change their mind about not wanting to have kids someday, then throwing a fit about it. Like yeah 100% its okay not to want kids but its not necessary to cry over it whenever someone suggests you might change your mind like please grow up and stop trying to find every little thing to cry about

Someone is clearly unaware of the harmful cultural narratives that contribute to such uncalled for invalidation from mostly parents or parent-to-be. Not necessarily your fault. Maybe educate yourself on childfree issues first, then try again.

♥ 20 — 10 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via babyradical

So I’ve blocked the person who has been ridiculously defensive about brony porn. I don’t continue to waste my time and energy on viewing or interacting with tragically ignorant lost causes, and I appreciate everyone’s patience over the last two days.

Anyway, welcome to my new followers. 

♥ 6 — 10 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014
torgan inquired:

I'm getting married in a week and no one's "helpfully" mentioned that I might change my mind! I'm guessing it's because I'm a lady and ladies are supposed to get married! but when we deviate from patriarchal scripts there are always people lining up to let us know we are Being Women Wrong and couldn't possibly know our own minds or what we want out of life!
♥ 19 — 20 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via provoice

warblebee:

provoice:

tattooed-messianic-tiffy:

tattooed-messianic-tiffy:

provoice:

tattooed-messianic-tiffy:

provoice:

callmebackinfiveyears:

provoice:

Today my parents and I went to a craft fair, and while I was looking at (well, smelling) some candles, my mom struck up a conversation with the guy running…

Where did I imply I knew what you wanted? I am trying to show you a reality. Why do you feel soooooo strongly that you know without a doubt that you will never want kids? Yet you have already changed your mind about other issue?! The point I was making is it does happen, people do change. I am not saying you will for sure change. I am just saying it’s naive to say it couldn’t happen.

Why do you feel so strongly that you know without a doubt you want more kids? Are you sure you want kids? Absolutely positive?

Oh, well, you’ll probably change your mind.

I love it when people respond to the desire to live childfree as though they are the first people to ever tell us we’ll change our minds. Gee, I never thought of it like that, but now that a total stranger has asserted that my magical mommy switch will absolutely click on, I see the error of my ways! All of these years thinking I know what I want out of my own life have just been a delusion!

♥ 118 — 20 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via warblebee (source)
warblebee:

I do not need strangers dictating what health care I can access. I do not need strangers telling me I’ll “change my mind” about what I want out of life. I don’t presume to know anything about you; please don’t presume to know anything about me. Mind your own business, not mine. 

warblebee:

I do not need strangers dictating what health care I can access. I do not need strangers telling me I’ll “change my mind” about what I want out of life. I don’t presume to know anything about you; please don’t presume to know anything about me. Mind your own business, not mine. 

♥ 27 — 20 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via warblebee

animal-crown:

So I decided I was going to get back on the horse, found a nice guy on Tinder, chatting away for a few days and then find out he has a kid. Fuck sake.

I get the feeling that childfree dating is going to be a pain in the ass.

Unfortunately, yes, especially on non-childfree specific dating sites. :/ Really sorry.

♥ 7 — 20 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via animal-crown

outrageauxbonnesmoeurs:

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at this, to be honest. Do these women realize the irony of the fact that they wouldn’t even be ALLOWED to state their views this way had women before them not fought, starved, suffered, and died for their right to do so? That’s what feminism is, you poor, deluded fools.

If it wasn’t for feminists these women wouldn’t be allowed to vote, drive, work, or educate themselves. At all. Everything they have and enjoy in what makes up their life, every single right that these spoiled young women take for granted, their grandmothers, great-grandmothers, and great-great-grandmothers fought relentlessly for so that we wouldn’t be denied what was denied them. I’m appalled that the history of the Suffragettes and the women’s rights movement isn’t taught in schools alongside black history or the Holocaust. It should be a mandatory part of any curriculum because clearly, it’s needed.

And you may not want to “politicize your gender”, but guess what, sweetheart? That is done FOR you the second you are born whether you want it to or not. That’s kind of part of the whole problem. Someone needs to sit these women down and teach them what their parents clearly failed to teach because my God…they have no clue.

♥ 380 — 21 hours ago on 25 Jul 2014 — via spontaneouschatter (source)
Anonymous inquired:

I went to a late dinner w/ my friends and we got seated right next to a table w/ a screaming baby. It screamed/cried for about half the time we were there (painful for the ears & distracting from my conversation w/ friends) & once the family left, we were appalled at the food splattered all over the table and floor. It literally was like a bomb hit a plate and sent food flying.

That etiquette and behavior was so terrible that it was physically painful to read about. Even more painful when you remember the words “late dinner.”

♥ 4 — 21 hours ago on 24 Jul 2014

4r73m15:

"i dont feel oppressed in any way so no one needs feminism"

just because you do not feel oppressed doesn’t mean feminism is unnecessary the world does not revolve around you

♥ 153 — 21 hours ago on 24 Jul 2014 — via 4r73m15